How to map and talk 

Sit side by side with pen and paper.  Larger sheets of paper are best.  Say to each other that it will help us talk and listen if we write down the words and phrases that come up in the conversation.  Have in mind that you are looking for patterns in the conversation and in the stories and memories being shared.   Learn to use the methods and concepts of map and talk and keep practising.  If you are mostly doing the mapping say to the person whose words and stories you are listening to that as we talk we can:


  • talk more openly and transparently and tolerate the messiness of seeking understanding and the worry of getting lost for words 

  • create a shared thinking space where we can see what we are saying  

  • models working democratically side-by-side as a step to getting alongside the inner dialogue with one’s self

  • offer a record of what was discussed and how the conversation went.

​For more watch the ten hand drawn videos listed in the box below, or read part one of Therapy with a Map  


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Watch these videos 

  • There are ten videos on the tabs above; each is only a few minutes long. Work your way through them, or if you prefer click the button below to watch them as a youtube playlist (or if you are on mobile).

  • These ten hand drawn videos demonstrate the live, spontaneous and messy process of therapy, reflection or conversation with a map. 

  • The theory and practice supporting this approach are in my book Therapy with a Map

  • Introductions to this way of working are available through the webinars on the events page.

  • Feedback is very welcome and can be sent to

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Therapy space + reflective mapping= relational awareness 

If we create a space which is therapeutic (whether with a therapist or on our own or with friends or activities) and combine it with reflective mapping then we are likely to create the conditions for relational awareness.  Find out more about why mapping helps